Bazan themed Bachelor Party
Ten years ago, I called out of work hopped in my best friends car and went on a "surprise" adventure.
The surprised was to see David Bazan of Pedro the Lion play a "living room" style show down in Troy, NY.
Probably like 30-40 people in a small room, listening to my favorite artist/story teller do their thing. Felt like magic, almost a vision state experience. He took requests and answered questions. But I felt like I won the golden ticket. After the show wrapped up, he was taking pictures with fans, hand shakes and high fives. I got to ask him a heavy question.
You see, I was 3 weeks out from getting married and about 4 months out from becoming a father.
I got to ask Dave (He corrected me when I said David), What advice do you have for an expecting father and soon to be husband?
What seems to many a very heavy and deep question, but he grinned like I gave him a softball question. He said, be present. Do the small things well. Then he snuck in the dad story of skin-to-skin moments when becoming a father.
He said They will tell you to take your shirt off in the room and hold your baby. He said Do it, its the most magical moment.
Looking back on the last ten years. He was right. The miracle of getting to hold something I helped make against my bare chest. Worries disappear. The moments seem small and trivial, they aren't. Those are the moments that matter most.
The last ten years have been a wild ride, there are times where it felt the wolves were at my door. There were times where I felt second best. But man, those small moments of being their to support the partner you choose to build a life with, the small gestures of bringing them a snack or beverage. Being of service to the ones you love goes a long way.
Not many people would agree that going to see David Bazan for your Bachelor party is uplifting and "Fun". But I want those heavy conversations and stories, we all got 'em. Better to share them.
If you want more devastating story telling. Check out Bazan: Alone at the Microphone.